Catch Up By Two?

     I think about posting about Jack turning 2 almost daily.  But I keep putting it off.  There’s just so much to say, especially since my last real update was in June!  Good mommy, bad blogger!  Basically, since Jack has started walking, things haven’t slowed down enough for me to put my thoughts together.  While Jack was in the NICU, we heard the phrase “catch up by 2” thrown around.  Apparently, age 2 is a big deal in the preemie world…well, that is unless you’re an actual preemie parent and have already realized that there isn’t some magical process that occurs the night your baby transitions to 23 months+ to 2 years!  As if, suddenly, at age 2 the impact of prematurity is erased.  It’s not.  I’ve always hated that phrase, because it inherently implies that Jack is being compared to other babies who have had a more typical start to life and that he MUST catch up, for whatever reason.  I do not need Jack to “catch up,” but the medical community apparently does.  I think it’s safe to say that Jack isn’t completely “caught up,” but he is the best Jack that he can be, and he is…completely amazing!

So here’s a little bit of what Jack has been up to lately:

     Talking....he has definitely transitioned from signing to words (although he still uses signs every once in awhile).  His favorite words are probably “Big Truck.”  He also calls Jeff, “Big Daddy!”  And apparently I must say “Right now!” pretty often, because yesterday he brought me his shoes (or “chews” as Jack calls them) and said “Right now!”  He is still working on 2-word phrases, but the realization that he could use his voice/words definitely kicked in right after his birthday.  His receptive language skills are awesome…just when I think he isn’t listening or understanding, he proves me wrong!  Just like his body, I think his brain is going non-stop.  There are days when he will spend 2 hours shouting and talking in his crib, when he should be napping.  In addition to weekly speech therapy sessions, Jack also attends S.P.L.A.S.H. (Sound Play Language Awareness Story Hour) on Thursdays with 7 other kiddos.  It’s an awesome program for 2-3 year olds to have fun with language and sound.  He’s been making a lot of progress since we’ve started these classes.  I love hearing him shout out answers in class or sing along with the songs!    He is able to say most of the alphabet and count to 10…and recognizes many letters and numbers.  8 is one of his favorite numbers!  We are working on using words to communicate his wants and needs (rather than just labeling things). 

     

     At the beginning of the summer, Jack became a “Miracle Child” for the Children’s Miracle Network.  We were able to be on TV for the annual telethon and he can now participate in lots of CMN events and share his story!  We traveled to the OBX in June as well and Jack LOVED the ocean.  This boy had no fear and ran right in.  He loved being with the whole family (over 20+ people), especially his cousins Emma and Carly.  He’s been a pretty great traveler so far…no complaints in the car.  Jack has been to Dutch Wonderland a few times this summer too…loved the log flume and the water slides.  I couldn’t have ever imagined that my tiny 2-pound baby would someday love water slides!    Jack also loves going to Daniel’s Den park (for all abilities), where he can really explore and use his body/muscles in new ways.  The shorter steps have helped him step up & down on his own and he has definitely become more confident navigating unfamiliar terrain.  We are working on ball skills (throwing, passing), jumping, and walking up & down stairs (tough for his short legs) with his PT. 

     Like me, Jack celebrates his birthday week, instead of just one day (back in August).  He had 3 different birthday celebrations and enjoyed them all.  This birthday was the year of TOYS!  He received so many new toys…I’ve been rotating them so that they seem new again every few weeks :)   We also took Jack to New Hampshire to visit his grandparents.  He did awesome on the 10-hour car ride and LOVED the lake and boat rides, and he had no complaints about wearing a life vest.  He was “big man on campus” when we visited cousin Lexi at LVC.  Lots of campus to explore for Jack.  He also went back to visit for LVC Homecoming and met some of my softball teammates and coach.  

     He’s been to the grocery store and restaurants, the bay, a wedding, The Country Barn, trick-or-treating, Chocolate World and the zoo.  It’s been so nice to finally do typical things with him.  While we are still cautious about his health, we know that his lungs are much stronger now and could probably withstand a cold  or other illness, without hospitalization.   We still see his pulmonologist every 3 months and he still takes daily medications to help him breath and keep his lungs “open.”  His eating habits are typical of a toddler and he’s added a few new foods, like chicken nuggets and sweet potato fries.  Nothing makes me happier than watching him eat.  His weight is still lower than doctors would like, but he eats well.  He peed on his scale, so we don’t weigh him as much as we used to.  He also still takes daily meds for reflux and we are supposed to add a GI doctor to his “team” since the reflux should have been resolved by now.  Therapy is still the same (PT, OT, SpT), but we do have his annual IFSP meeting in December to see if he still qualifies for Early Intervention services.  Having these services is a blessing and a curse at the same time…obviously, I love that Jack has all the support he needs to be the best Jack he can be.  But, it also is a constant reminder that his early birth is still impacting him and that he needs extra help to do things that many children can just do.    

     

     Every year that he gets older, every milestone that he reaches…I feel a very miniscule amount of relief that we are closer to the point where I think he will have a future and survive the trauma of his early birth and undeveloped body and organs.  I hear a lot of parents lament about their little ones growing too fast, and while part of me feels that same way, there is also a part of me that is VERY anxious for him to grow up, get stronger, and get healthier.  That’s all I could think of during his baby stages when we were so overwhelmed and anxious, hoping that we would see the next day.  I’m glad that I documented all those days, so now I can look back and see all the “typical” baby stuff that he did do.  One of the effects of prematurity on parents is that we are often so focused on the medical stuff, and rightly so, that we might miss out on enjoying certain things.  I’m happy to say that I think we are at a point where the everyday toddler stuff definitely has taken over as a focus, with health/medical stuff still on the table (but maybe just as an appetizer for now). 

As I finish typing this, Jack is on the tail end of his first real cold.  I had the cold first and Jack seemed to have a lesser version of it, with mostly a stuffy/runny nose and a slight fever on the first day.  We just added his second inhaler, to make sure nothing moved to his lungs and kept an eye on his O2 saturations with our handy-dandy pulse-ox.  Jack actually enjoys this “testing” now!

So, that's the Jack portion of his turning two...stay tuned for how much Jack's mom is "caught up" by 2.  

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