you'll understand why parents of premature babies do so much to advocate for their children. Why they fight, and why, at times, they may seem a little sensitive to certain comments. It blows my mind that so many who have not experienced prematurity seem to think that they know the right thing to do and feel as though they can judge despite their lack of experience and knowledge. And it blows my mind even more, if that's even possible, that anyone believes that they have the right to determine whether a child, someone else's child, has worth. I guess I should feel "lucky" that Jack was born just past the 28 week mark, because otherwise, in the opinion of too, too many in our society, he may not have been worth saving. I literally could vomit just thinking about the possibility that I would ever have to prove to someone that Jack is worth it. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely believe that parents (and society) should be as informed as possible about prematurity. (Obviously, that's why I do so so much advocating and educating.) But, here's the thing...premature birth is often an unexpected, sudden, fast-action event where information and knowledge (although it may be given) is often overshadowed by the emotions and fears of parents. Parents whose expectations have been thrown out the window and shattered on the ground below. We were informed, but we were also overwhelmed. Hearing the statistics and outcomes is a lot different than living them. Even so, Jack was "worth" it then. Jack is "worth" it now. And the only perception or judgement of that worth that is valid is mine...his father's...and his own.
|Pretty sure he is certain of his worth.|